Building Lasting Friendships | Callie Burgard: Kómma Designs

Alright, I am going to start out brutal- but stick with me. Evaluate your current circle of friends. Do you feel genuinely loved? Supported? Do you feel like your friends are like-minded? Do you feel like they push you harder to obtain your goals? The moment I surrounded myself with like-minded friends, my world changed. For me, being a creative warrior who works a full-time career and owns a small business, finding friends who understood that Friday nights were late night blog writing, timeline creation and steaming linens for clients was difficult.  As awful as this may sound, surrounding yourself with people who are in line with your goals, your lifestyle and your career, will help you find common ground and support. Friendships are so much more than random texts and the occasional coffee date. Lasting friendships are genuine, loving, supportive and something worth celebrating.

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Meeting new friends can seem difficult, scary and just sometimes impossible. Never be afraid to reach out to other like-minded individuals, people you admire or people you want to be friends with. You would be surprised how supportive people are when you just reach out. Also, never be afraid to talk to strangers- yeah, I know. The world has told you your whole life that talking to strangers is a bad thing. Don’t hang out with me if you don’t want to talk to strangers. I am wildly known for approaching anyone for just about anything. Ok, obviously use your best judgment, I am not asking you to walk up to danger- but you should know the different between someone you admire, someone who you love their style or someone with great hair vs. someone dangerous looking.

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Listening is one of the most incredible qualities a human can have. People love to be heard, but in reality, we spend so much time wanting to just talk about ourselves. Take time to genuinely get to know people. Ask them small details about their life. Ask them how their day and week are going. Remember what they said to you, and always remember to follow up. If your friend mentions they are having a rough time, in a few days, don’t hesitate to reach out and check in.

Celebrating is so underrated. I believe in celebrating every aspect of life. Some of our favorite accomplishments are the littlest. Take the time to recognize these little victories in your friends. Did your friend recently get a new job? Finish a class they struggled with? Make an awesome root beer float? Get an award? Celebrate with them. Send them a card, take them balloons, invite them over. Celebrate things that are basically random. Celebrate the change in season, time change, their vacation- just sending them a reminder about how awesome it is going to impact their life. Little victories are still steps towards a greater goal, and deserve reward. Make it seem like a big deal, believe me, people are taken back by this, and love it. I know this all sounds crazy- and extreme, but I promise you, you will change the lives of your friends around you. When they flip through their mail, open their text, are embraced by a hug- their world will change a little bit for the better.

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Always be available to help your friends. As humans, we struggle. Help can come in so many different forms. In my industry, sometimes help is just a cup of coffee while I am working on a wedding layout, sometimes help is setting floral at a wedding, sometimes help is just advice on which photo to post on Instagram. Take the time to serve your friends. Helping them grow can be such an empowering, incredible feeling. It is a selfless task that can change their life, show your support and remind them how proud of them you are.

The simplest things can go so far. Wishing each of your friends a happy day via text can change their entire morning. Reaching out to your friends throughout the day to let them know your thinking about them. Also, in your own busy life, schedule time for friends. Stop turning down breakfast dates, dinner and late nights under the stars. No matter how busy you are, focus time on the friendships, it is good for both your soul and theirs.

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I know I am a little crazier than the rest of the world, but I take time to celebrate friendships and build relationships with my friends because at the end of the day, they are the ones who support me, love me, celebrate with me. They make me laugh, they build memories with me, they travel with me. They create with me. They help my career, the least I can do is remind them daily how much I love them, how proud I am, how happy I am to have them in my life.

Photo Credit:

Abigail Wellinghurst

Marriage + Friendship

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In honor of February being the month of love, we wanted to do a post on relationships, particularly marriage + friendship. But this post isn’t going to be your typical marriage and friendship advice kind of post. Instead, we enlisted two women we love and admire: our grandmothers: Amanda’s Nana and my Mammaw. They’re both in their 70’s and we admire them in sooo many ways. We’ve looked up to them our whole lives, and we admire their marriages, their strength, and the way they carry themselves as women.  And now we consider them friends.

Let me tell you a little about them… First up, Amanda’s Nana and Grandad: Gloria and Mike. They started dating when they were 16. They married young, did well for themselves earlier on and were then separated for a few years during the war. Gloria had Amanda’s mother while Mike was overseas. Amanda said that her Nana is a fiercely-loyal woman, and contributes their success during their time apart because of this. When Mike returned, life resumed as normal. They both worked and attended school at night while raising Amanda’s mom. Mike moved up in a local company, becoming the head accountant and Gloria was a successful teacher.

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When Amanda asked them their secrets to this long life of love, the first one on their list was: loyalty.

“Understanding marriage is not always a love story… Life gives and takes from you. As a married couple, knowing you have loyalty from your partner gives you solid ground to stand on in uncertain times. Our trust and commitment to one another was not determined by our circumstances,” shared Gloria.

She continued, “Show your spouse a little grace during times that you’re surviving on your commitment and loyalty alone. Love comes in waves…”

Mike jumped in and said, “I would say our friendship was important to our success. We both have similar interests and enjoy experiencing life together. Get out and live life together!,” he added, “Watching you kids today, I don’t see many of you out there getting into things. I see you on your phone and computer looking at a lot of places or watching other people’s experiences. You don’t need a partner to do that. If you have a partner, live a life that engages one another. If you don’t have a partner, well… maybe you need to get off your gadgets.” ; )

Gloria countered his comment with, “Encourage one another to enjoy things outside of the relationship. We have always been supportive of one another having a life outside of each other. Good friendships come in handy when your marriage needs support, an illness strikes, or you have something to celebrate. Don’t cut off your friendships and passions just because you’re married.”

And speaking of friends, the inspiration behind this post came to me a few weeks ago after I attended a viewing with my Mammaw. Her BFF’s (Anna Marie) husband passed away and seeing how they interacted got me thinking about their 45 year long friendship. I never truly stopped to think about what they had been through together until recently. So a few days later, I asked my Mammaw about how they came to be friends + how they stayed friends all these years.

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They met in 1971 when a mutual friend suggested that my Mammaw start babysitting Anna Marie’s two girls. And so she did just that. Her girls became fast friends with my mom and her brother and shortly after, Anna Marie and her family moved a couple streets up from my Mammaw and Pappaw. They’ve lived within walking distance of one another for 45 years and they STILL log more hours per week on the phone than any two people I’ve ever met. They’ve been through a LOT together;  the one constant in both of their lives has always been each other. They’ve lost children and grandchildren, fought for their marriages and what they believed in, dealt with their own health issues, and now, they’ve both lost the great loves of their lives. Forty-five years. And they seem to have mastered the ever-elusive balancing act of loving themselves + others well, simultaneously.

Here’s how my Mammaw says they did it:

Are you ready for this?…

“I don’t know… we were just always there for each other.”  — So simple and honest and real. I also asked her if they ever fought or went through rough patches in their friendship and she quickly replied: “No. Never.”  THAT in itself is amazing! I chalk it up to both of them being so easy-going and being true to one another during all seasons of life. They had each other to lean on during the tough times; they knew they could count on the other person. That is so rare these days… to find people who can handle you at your worst and still decide to stay and walk with you through the mess.

We loved interviewing our family for this post. They keep us grounded and remind us what life is all about. We hope your relationships are full of grace, loyalty and adventure!

Happy Valentine’s Day! Go out and love on somebody!

Snow Day

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Happy Monday! So… #WinterStormJonas got us GOOD 2 weekends ago. We’re talkin’ over two feet of snow, stuck in the house for days kinda good. As soon as it started to clear and the sun came out – we just had to get out in it and take some photos! This was our first big snowfall of the year (and hopefully the last!) so it was fun to goof around a little bit! We felt like a pop of red would be perfect with Valentine’s Day coming up!

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Amanda’s Sperry Duck Boots were perfect for our walk in the snow. It was a pretty warm day and the snow was starting to melt.

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 My Target vest was also the perfect pick for the not-so-typical winter temps we had that day.

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 Amanda borrowed this Target scarf from our girlfriend, Casey. I’ve seen it all over social media this winter but couldn’t snatch it up at the store in time. I knew it would look great with her red pea coat and black beanie.

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          The pop of red is everything against this winter white background. These are some of my favorite photos we’ve done in awhile!

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Snow Fashion  Sure, I look like I’ve got my walk together. Little do you know… I almost fell into that wet snow about 10 different times during our shoot! Let me tell you, it’s never a dull moment. 😉

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 My Target boots are a staple in my winter wardrobe. They keep my feet warm + dry while making me feel like my look is put-together.

Valentines day winter wonderland   It’s always so fun shooting together! Most of the time it’s one of us behind the camera. It was fun to have Amanda’s husband behind the camera for a change!

 

Backyard Bonfire | Fall Gathering

 
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Hey, tribe! Sweater weather is upon us and that means it’s time for The Wild Revival’s fall gathering! 
 
We want to bring you all together for a little bit of creativity + connection. 
 
Pumpkin carving is fun but… anytime you get a bunch of girlfriends together with paint, tons of glitter, pumpkins, and yummy food– it’s a party! We’ll be painting pumpkins, having a chili bar, and roasting s’mores over a bonfire! 
 
Cost for the event will be $20. We have 25 spots and we’ll be filling them on a first-come, first-serve basis! 
 
Once you register + pay, we’ll send you an e-mail with directions to our event location.
This is going to be a lot of fun! We hope you’ll join us at our Backyard Bonfire! 
 
**Don’t forget to bring your pumpkin! You’re welcome to bring your own paints/supplies. We will have limited supplies available!**
 
Click the link below to register for Backyard Bonfire!
 

Bittersweet | Book Review



 

 

“When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. 
And when life is bitter, say thank you and grow.”

 


Earlier this summer, we finally got around to checking out the author Shauna Niequist. We had been wanting to read her books for a while, starting with her book, Bittersweet: Thoughts on Change, Grace and Learning the Hard Way.  In Bittersweet, Niequist shares a collection of short essays reflecting on her life’s most challenging seasons. She intricately weaves together stories of the highs
and lows of her life, with a constant theme of hope and the importance of being deeply rooted in r
elationships with those around her. 
The connections to friends, who became family, kept her grounded in faith during times of disappointment and loss. Her stories of friendship, family, and food remind us of what matters most. In this book, Shauna addresses many challenges women face, ranging from job loss, motherhood, infertility, marriage/family and challenges in her walk with God.
 
Her ability to tell a story is amazing; the way she paints you a picture with words leaves you looking forward to what she will say next. The ways she finds God in the midst of change and heartbreak is so easy to connect with. Her joys and struggles are, in one way or another, part every woman’s story. Whether we’re experiencing something similar to her firsthand, or using her words to support a
sister during her time of hardship– we can all relate to that. These were key elements that left us saying “YES!” after every chapter.
 



Her reflections throughout Bittersweet are vulnerable
and honest; leaving you feeling like she is telling you her story face-to-face, over coffee or at a dinner table. Niequist gives you the permission and motivation to tell your story: both the beautiful + the broken parts, and she tells us THAT is where the presence of God is felt. 
Connecting with an author is important….we kinda feel like we know her personally and we love that about her!


 If you go looking for a book on spiritual growth, you will surely find a lot them! Often times, we find that many of the books in this category are full of facts and knowledge and “if you want this kind of life, then you should do this, this AND this.”  While how-to books can be great, sometimes you just need real life. That’s what we personally feel Shauna gave to us as readers.  
While reading Bittersweet, we both had stories that we connected with in our own way, some more than others.  Jointly though, we both reflected back on times we found hope during seasons of uncertainty, just as Niequist shares.  And like her, we feel that the moments centered around a
table with friends and good food is magical. When you sit down, forget about the time, your obligations, your worries and you can just be… Laughing, crying and
loving on people in all their raw and honest moments. 
Her words were like an affirmation to our desire to create a space where women could come together to develop authentic relationships.  
We really enjoyed reading this book together, and the discussions that followed. When we finished it, we immediately started reading another book of hers entitled: Bread & Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around The Table with Recipes, and we’re already sucked into it!  
 
A few our our favorite quotes from Bittersweet are shared below, although it was very difficult to narrow down our faves!: 
 
Amanda’s favorites:
“Looking back now I can see that it was more than anything a failure to believe in the story of who God is and what he is doing in this world. Instead of living that story—one of sacrifice and purpose and character—I began to live a much smaller story, and that story was only about me. I wanted an answer, a timeline, and a map. I didn’t want to have to trust God or anything I couldn’t see. I didn’t want to wait or follow. I wanted my old life back, and even while I read the mystics and the prophets, even while I prayed fervently, even while I sat in church and begged for God to direct my life, those things didn’t have a chance to transform me, because under those actions and intentions was a rocky layer of faithlessness, fear, and selfishness.”
 
“Left to our own devices, we sometimes choose the most locked up, dark versions of the story, but what a good friend does is turn on the lights, open the window, and remind us that there are a whole lot of ways to tell the same story.”

Marrissa’s favorites:
“The idea of bittersweet is changing the way I live, unraveling and re-weaving the way I understand life. Bittersweet is the idea that in all things there is both something broken and something beautiful, that there is a moment of lightness on even the darkest of nights, a shadow of hope in every heartbreak, and that rejoicing is no less rich even when it contains a splinter of sadness… It’s the practice of believing that we really do need both the bitter and the sweet, and that a life of nothing but sweetness rots both your teeth and your soul. Bitter is what makes us strong, what forces us to push through, what helps us earn the lines on our faces and the calluses on our hands. Sweet is nice enough, but bittersweet is beautiful.”
 
“Everybody has a home team: It’s the people you call when you get a flat tire or when something terrible happens. It’s the people who, near or far, know everything that’s wrong with you and love you anyways. These are the ones who tell you their secrets, who get themselves a glass of water without asking when they’re at your house. These are the people who cry when you cry. These are your people, your middle-of-the-night, no-matter-what people.”
 
We hope all of you will grab a copy of this book and really take time to savor it like we did. Even if you only read a chapter a day, we feel there is much to be learned from Shauna Niequists’ words and life experiences. We don’t want to give too much away because we really want you to read it, BUT… the fact that her story didn’t end with her getting everything she wanted will leave you feeling hopeful, like something beautiful can and will come out of your story, too. 
 
Let us know what you think about Bittersweet  after you’ve read it!

Flower Crowns + Food | Gathering


Last summer, Amanda and I thought of an idea for a gathering we wanted to hold. We wanted to host a small group of girlfriends, make pretty flower crowns and eat + talk, just for fun… because we felt like everyone would enjoy an evening like that. We wanted it to be an intimate event where women could come together, creatively, and share life experiences with one another. But if we’re being honest– life got in the way. We got busy and it just didn’t happen.
 
Nearly a year went by and we decided we were going to start blogging about the things we love combined with hosting those gatherings that we had talked about so often. We wanted to bring women together, around a table, because that’s where the good stuff happens. That’s where you talk, dream, cry, EAT, laugh, and create things with your own hands. 
 
It’s so hard to make time for friendships, but if the past few years of our lives have taught us anything — it’s that friends are the glue that holds us together. It’s important to make time to be with the people you care about. Community is vital, and finding what you love to do is, too. The heart + soul behind The Wild Revival Gatherings is creating a space where the walls can drop and real, honest conversations can happen.
 
This is about connection.
 
On the last Saturday of August, we finally held our first gathering: Flower Crowns + Food! It was amazing to see our heart’s desire come to fruition right in front of us.  It was an ideal end of summer soiree.
 
There were 16 of us at the event and we each brought something different to the table. Our stories are different, as are our struggles + our joys. We created, we laughed, and we engaged in conversations we wouldn’t have had, had it not been for the gathering. There is something to be said about what God does when He brings people together in that way.
“The heart of hospitality is about creating space for someone to feel seen and heard and loved. It’s about declaring your table a safe zone, a place of warmth and nourishment.” 
― Shauna NiequistBread & Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table, with RecipesHere’s a look inside our very first gathering!

We are so thankful to all of you ladies for making our first gathering such a success! Seeing you looking so pretty in your flower crowns + engaging with one another further reinforced our calling to do this. We’re looking forward to our next one already! Keep checking back for details on our fall gathering! 




Flower Crown Tutorial

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We
have been dreaming of making flower crowns for months now. Our Pinterest is
filled with images of these ethereal gems. In true ‘Wild Revival’ fashion: it
was time to stop talking and start doing. So we gathered our (very short list
of) supplies and went down to the lake and got busy.  We hope that this
simple tutorial will help you bring this fun DIY to life.

 

 

  
Tools:

 

 

  • Flowers
  • Greenery
  • Kitchen Scissors
  • Floral Wire
  • Floral Tape 



 


 

We purchased our floral tape and wire from a local craft store.
Your flowers can be right out of your garden or from a local flower shop. There
is no wrong way to go with the type of flowers and greenery you choose to use
in your crown. It’s whatever you like! 
 




Instructions: 

1) Wrap the floral wire around your head to
find out what size your crown should be. Keep in mind the crown will
become more snug as you add your greenery and flowers, so be sure to keep a
(little) bit of space when measuring your crown. Once you determine the most
comfortable fit, cut off the excess wire. Twist the end and tuck the wire,
covering the wire crown in floral tape. 

 

2)  Now you will cover your wire in
your chosen greenery. We found the thinner branches of greenery worked best,
due to them being easier to manipulate. Tape your greenery onto the wire as you
go. This part can be tedious, but so worth it when it’s all done! 

 


3)  Now for the fun! Once all your
greenery is secured, you can add your flowers. Make sure to leave 2-3 inch
stems when cutting your chosen blooms. You will place your flowers one at a
time, taping as you go.  Make sure you wrap the tape 3 times around your
blooms, trying your best to avoid your greenery leaves as you go. 


 

 

Fill your crowns with as many or
as little blooms as you wish.  Flower crowns always come out looking fun +
whimsical. We feel that you can never have too much whimsy in your life.  

 

 

 

 

If you used our tutorial to make
you own flower crown, let us know! #TWRhowto // @thewildrevival

 

 

Welcome to the wild revival!

 

 

 

 

Welcome!
No matter what season of life you’re in- you can celebrate it right where you are- in all its fullness and messiness. We know how busy you are — because we’re busy, too. But we hope to inspire you to take time to dig into the things that bring you joy.
A common topic of conversation between us was often our desire to bring together women who are passionate about the same things as we are. A place + time where we could come together, creatively, and share our love of art, food, and fashion. A place where we could make new friendships, or deepen old ones.
So THAT is how The Wild Revival came to life.Our desire to create a community of women doin’ their thing AND supporting one another while doing it
has led us here. We hope you will connect and engage with our soul-filled community and attend our upcoming gatherings.

-Marrissa + Amanda
@thewildrevival

 

Picnic-ing


It can be overwhelming to try to bring people together anymore. With so many obligations and
tending to our lives, time for community is usually last on the list. That’s
why when an opportunity arises to do something that brings your tribe together
or allows you to meet new people, you just have to jump in and do it, rather than focusing on making it perfect.

 

Here are a few photos from an early spring picnic. Even without the leaves on the trees, it was a taste of
summer with blue skies, the pond, and 80 degree temps.

 

Since it was a last-minute gathering, we kept the menu super simple; nothing was planned or matching. Paper plates, plastic forks
and mason jars were all on hand.  A festive Mexican blanket (or two) made this not-so-planned-out picnic come together so well.We completed our picnic with the items listed below:
  • Chicken Salad
  • Watermelon
  • Croissants
  • Lemonade
  • Tea 
  • Chips + Salsa

 

We are big fans of last-minute picnics (obviously so is Owen!) It was so nice to pull a few friends together for a quick gathering.

 

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